I learned a lot from my time as a basketball referee. It taught me to think quickly under pressure and how to de-escalate disagreement on the fly.  Humility and confidence were necessary, and I learned those traits are more interconnected than we give them credit. I remember before one game, we were talking about the coaches and I distinctly remember my partner sharing something with me about one of the coaches.  He said, “The coach is really quiet, but if…