The questions usually come via email. But I also get them face to face when doing personal coaching. They’re often asked with a hint of incredulity, as if what I write isn’t necessarily how I feel behind closed doors. “Aren’t there some moments that call for lectures, admonishments, and the like?” “Isn’t raising your voice and showing some anger at times the best thing you can do?” “Don’t teachers have to show they mean business at least some of the…